How to Stop Hating Yourself.
from a retired self-loather
I want to say step one is: improve yourself, but as a retired self-loather, I don’t think that’s it. I think the first step is to accept everything you think is wrong with you, and learning to see it differently.
We often treat our flaws like trash we need to throw out quickly, or fix so we can be ‘perfect’. But what if our flaws are pointers? Think of road signs; they’re still, pointing quietly. Sometimes, they tell you where to slow down; other times, they tell you what’s ahead, and all the time, they remind you where you are, even when you feel lost.
What if your flaws are like that, and instead of seeing them as defects, you see them as directions? What if your avoidance isn’t laziness, but a defense mechanism you picked up when things got too loud growing up? What if your sharp tongue is the armor you built because softness once made you feel unsafe? What if the emptiness you feel isn’t a sign that you’re broken, but a quiet nudge toward a life you haven’t built yet?
Not everything about you is perfect, but all the parts of you are worth loving. Even the ones you’re still trying to understand — especially those.
You will get better. But not by hating yourself into healing, not by reaching for quick fixes just to escape the parts you haven’t yet made peace with.
You’ll get better by being patient, by listening, by nurturing yourself, even while you’re still learning how.
all of this is in the context that you’re not a deranged psychopath seeking attention by harming others though. otherwise,…..